The addict typically leads a double life and uses dishonesty and self delusion to escape the feelings of shame and guilt toward a spouse or partner.
In recovery addicts will have made a commitment to “rigorous honesty” and will have gone from leading two lives to having a stronger more integrated sense of self.
For recovering addicts who feel ready to look for a new love, or rebuild an old one in a new way, there are hurdles that may loom large and pitfalls they may not anticipate.
Most sex addicts, if they had past relationships, had relationships that were damaged by their addiction.
If people do not feel that they have an addiction or struggle with any kind of sexual integrity issue, it is more challenging for them to understand the need to have boundaries around their relationship to protect it from anything that can cause it to weaken.
INTEGRITY: Most people recovering from sex addiction have learned the benefits and the importance of having integrity in their life.It is a maladaptive way to compensate for this early attachment failure.Addiction is a symbolic enactment of deeply entrenched unconscious dysfunctional relationships with self and others.In the age of smartphones and frictionless-dating apps, sex addiction is like being hooked on a drug that's always available in unlimited supply.It's like living with a meth dealer at your side, or a brick of cocaine in your pocket.