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“This even upsets kids who are already out of the nest.The message their parents are sending is that it is more important for them to have a life of their choosing than to remain in their prior, primary role of mom or dad.” The result: strained relations, uncomfortable moments for everyone and, for you, the feeling that your children may not have your best interests at heart.Some parents have serious mental health issues – like my mom does.Others are physically, mentally, emotionally, or sexually abusive.And still other parents are just selfish, or were emotionally damaged in their own childhoods. They are flawed, weak, and often unprepared for the responsibility of parenthood.They care about and love us – their children – but sometimes they don’t know how to parent us properly.
Although people handle the loss of spouses differently, research has found that such loss often leads to predictable problems.
The course of such problems is affected by factors such as one’s gender, age, loss of economic resources, one’s ability to earn an income, available social support, and whether one also experiences depression.
Offering a portrait of widows and widowers drawn from the clinical psychiatric literature, Zisook and colleagues (1990) reported that first seven months after loss of spouse are often the hardest, when severe anxiety symptoms may occur.
Barbara Brooks expected her adult kids, Amy and Bryan (names have been changed), to be happy for her.
After all, they were the ones who had fixed her up with Gerald, a fellow divorcé and a friend’s uncle, because they didn’t want her to be lonely.